Say you are the type of person who just wants to be on the miserable side of life. What is the best way to go about this, the best techniques your mind and body can come up with to accomplish being miserable? Let’s identify but omit some of the obvious: doing drugs, committing crimes, gambling, and being abusive in any form.
Also you may use less noticeable way, ways that will not tweak the people around you to suspect that you’re acting deliberately and this works and pays off highly effective for you.
In doing this you need to pretend – fake it; that you want to be happy. If you don’t you may feel people won’t take your misery seriously. You develop a personal ‘art’ in which you are attracting your misery which allows you to justify that you are just the innocent victim. Why do you think you are forcibly extracting compassion and pity?